“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child,I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.” – St Paul
“In many tribal cultures, it is said that if boys were not initiated into manhood, if they were not shaped by the skills and love of elders, then they would destroy the culture.If the fires that innately burn inside youths are not intentionally and lovingly added to the hearth of community, they will burn down the structures of culture, just to feel the warmth.” – Michael Meade (Author)
Why are really alive and mature men so rare today?
Steve Biddulph (Australian Psychologist and author) in one of his more recent books, “The New Manhood”, provides the answer.
Because the majority of boys and young men today are not guided through “a carefully managed process” of initiation… a rite of passage… something that all cultures offered in some form, prior to the commencement of the Industrial Revolution 300 years ago.
In Australia, the prison population is made up predominantly of men.
As at 30 June 2005, 93.2% of prisoners in Australia were men.
It is men who commit the overwhelming majority of sex crimes, serious motoring offences, burglaries, robberies, and violent assaults etc.
Why might that be?
I believe that Michael Meade has already provided the answer… because boys in our culture are not “initiated into manhood”.
They typically do not experience an intentional rite of passage.
So what then should a process of initiation / a rite of passage include?
- Dad, or a father figure e.g. Uncle, Grandfather, mentor, coach, teacher etc.)
- A Community of Men
- Training and Instruction
- Adventure – Testing and challenging in the outdoors
- An Initiation Ceremony / Marker Event
Simply click on any of the above-mentioned essential elements, to explore further.
Our “Rite of Passage” Son and Father Adventure experiences have been designed, and are delivered, to provide Dads, and father figures, with each of those essential elements to ensure that their sons experience a rite of passage / are initiated into authentic manhood.
We encourage you to Register for one of those today, for one of the dates & locations that will suit you best.
For more detail on what rites of passage actually are, and why they are important etc., we recommend you read this blog post, here.