“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.” St Paul
“In many tribal cultures, it is said that if boys were not initiated into manhood, if they were not shaped by the skills and love of elders, then they would destroy the culture. If the fires that innately burn inside youths are not intentionally and lovingly added to the hearth of community, they will burn down the structures of culture, just to feel the warmth.” Michael Meade (Author)
Why are really alive and mature men so rare today? Steve Biddulph (Australian Psychologist and author) in his most recent book, “The New Manhood”, provides the answer. Because the majority of boys and young men today are not guided through “a carefully managed process” of initiation… something that all cultures offered in some form, prior to the commencement of the Industrial Revolution 300 years ago.
In Australia, the prison population is made up predominantly of men. As at 30 June 2005, 93.2% of prisoners in Australia were men. It is men who commit the overwhelming majority of sex crimes, serious motoring offences, burglaries, robberies, and violent assaults etc. Why might that be? I believe that Michael Meade has already provided the answer… because boys in our culture are not “initiated into manhood”.
So what then should a process of masculine initiation include?
- Dad, or a significant male other (Uncle, Grandfather, mentor, coach, teacher etc.)
- A Community of Men
- Training & Instruction
- Testing and challenging in the outdoors… adventure
- An Initiation Ceremony
Simply click on any of the above-mentioned essential ingredients, to explore further.
Our 5 Night Father-Son Adventures and our 4 Night Father-Son Adventures have been designed, and are delivered, to provide Dads with each of those essential ingredients to ensure that their sons are initiated into authentic manhood. Register for one of our upcoming 5 Night Father-Son Adventures or for our next 4 Night Father-Son Adventure.
You can see some photographs and read testimonials from the fathers and the sons, from one of our previous 5 Night Father-Son Adventures here.
You can watch a short video in the form of a movie trailer, of what you can expect from one of our 5 Night Father-Son Adventures here.
I’m eager to read stories from those Dads who have initiated their sons into manhood – What did that process mean to you? What did the process mean to your son?